The MMM Community is building a fair world where anyone may find their happy ever-after. People will do what they love and stop getting offended. When everyone is happy and content, there's no place for the sense of grievance. Psychologists explain what grievance is and how you can get rid of it. What is grievance Grievance is a person's reaction to other people's actions seen by this person as negative. People view the same words and actions differently. Some people get offended by things that others simply don't notice. A continuous sense of grievance causes stress and depression. In some people grievance is so strong it event affects the course of their life and prevents them from feeling happy. Therefore, eradicate the very roots of grievance. Don't impose your opinions on others When interacting with people, you expect them to behave in a certain way. However, your expectations are often left unmet — people don't behave the way you think they should. It results in the sense of grievance. But if you try to sort through this issue, it's all about you. Don't gauge others from your personal standpoint. Don't assign traits of character to them when they don't have those. Don't make up a behavior model for the other party. Your hopes will then remain intact, and you will have no sense of grievance. Focus on the positive aspects It's an obvious, yet effective piece of advice. If you want to get rid of grievance, change your view of the situation. Don't be angry with the other party — look for positive aspects. Remember moments when you were delighted to interact with this person. The sense of grievance will just disappear. Try not to focus on offensive words and actions. The other party may have had no intention of hurting you. Try to understand others If a person has offended you, look for motives in their actions. Grievance is caused by emotional outbursts, subdued spirits and other psychological reasons. Don't get caught up in your own emotions. Leave them aside and reason things out in cold blood — it'll help you understand the other party. Undistempered spirit will allow you to see the situation in perspective. Don't nurse grievance against others, be open and amiable. Join MMM, earn a high percentage of the help provided and build a new just world!